(I have a sheer blue button-down you need to borrow for your sheer blue dress 😇)
I was thinking about how comfort in a swimsuit is so funny because it leaves almost nothing to the imagination, whereas a “revealing” outfit actually reveals less. But the difference is that at the pool or on the beach, everyone is opting in to bareness and possible vulnerability from that! Something about it feels equitable.
People are going to judge no matter what. That’s not even always a bad thing, or a good thing, it’s just a thing. But what are we gonna do? Stay in the house?! No way 😈
Yes! Great point on the equity. The comfort is less about the actual skin being revealed, but what’s considered socially acceptable.
I’ve thought about something similar with wearing a bathing suit top versus bra in public. They are essentially the same item of clothing, but one is considered acceptable for wearing in public and the other not. If you switch the context, it throws people off, which, like you said—is ultimately just a thing.
So so good and definitely made me think. I feel the same way when things are too short but ultimately my mind says I’m going to be so uncomfortable wearing this bc the actual outfit itself is not comfortable. I think that’s what you were saying too in a certain part. Anyway I really love the black and white outfit for a dinner out - maybe can find a comfier skirt!
Yes! Exactly. Sometimes it’s literally “I don’t feel comfortable in this,” and other times it’s, I’m being made to feel uncomfortable in this. It’s about learning to distinguish between the two.
I loved this analysis, Robyn. I understand the feeling of thinking if an outfit is”safe”. Not now, but when I was much closer to your age and younger 😊 We shouldn’t have to feel that way, but we do.
This is just my Aunt Debbie taste, but I Love the black and white striped dress!
(I have a sheer blue button-down you need to borrow for your sheer blue dress 😇)
I was thinking about how comfort in a swimsuit is so funny because it leaves almost nothing to the imagination, whereas a “revealing” outfit actually reveals less. But the difference is that at the pool or on the beach, everyone is opting in to bareness and possible vulnerability from that! Something about it feels equitable.
People are going to judge no matter what. That’s not even always a bad thing, or a good thing, it’s just a thing. But what are we gonna do? Stay in the house?! No way 😈
and I will most definitely take you up on that blue sheer shirt 😉 😈
Yes! Great point on the equity. The comfort is less about the actual skin being revealed, but what’s considered socially acceptable.
I’ve thought about something similar with wearing a bathing suit top versus bra in public. They are essentially the same item of clothing, but one is considered acceptable for wearing in public and the other not. If you switch the context, it throws people off, which, like you said—is ultimately just a thing.
So so good and definitely made me think. I feel the same way when things are too short but ultimately my mind says I’m going to be so uncomfortable wearing this bc the actual outfit itself is not comfortable. I think that’s what you were saying too in a certain part. Anyway I really love the black and white outfit for a dinner out - maybe can find a comfier skirt!
Yes! Exactly. Sometimes it’s literally “I don’t feel comfortable in this,” and other times it’s, I’m being made to feel uncomfortable in this. It’s about learning to distinguish between the two.
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I loved this analysis, Robyn. I understand the feeling of thinking if an outfit is”safe”. Not now, but when I was much closer to your age and younger 😊 We shouldn’t have to feel that way, but we do.
This is just my Aunt Debbie taste, but I Love the black and white striped dress!
Thank you, Aunt Debbie ❤️ it’s a valid feeling, but I’ve realized it’s so grounded in victim blaming.
I love this dress too ☺️